May 21, 2016.
Can you believe that a few years ago we were at Savemore counting coins because you were so broke and could only afford off brand corned beef? Now I'm walking down the aisle and you're sobbing and making people laugh and cry at the same time.
It feels mysterious that we got ourselves to this point.
Husband and wife. Husband and wife. Husband and wife.
I grew up around single mothers my whole life and it is strange to me to be part of
this mythical thing called husband and wife.
Jonny I am happy.
To My Wife:
Three years earlier we came to Coron and we saw a church on a hill down a dirt road. You didn't get out of the car and climb the steps because it was hot and you weren't thinking so far ahead, but I was already thinking about forever. In that tiny church of stone and seashells facing the sea, I knew where forever would start.
How little we knew then, how different we were! So many sharp corners still to turn, still fashioning cocktails from ice and water. Cambodia wasn't even a glimmer in our minds yet, though it was rapidly approaching us unawares. Still counting coins at Savemore cashiers, mixing rum in coke bottles in taxicab back seats. Sometimes change is like that I guess, a thousand coincidences conspiring backstage to alter the course of your life. A chance meeting turns into a life and a lifetime.
And sometimes change doesn't sneak up on us. Sometimes it's been foreseen and dreamed for years and the ghostly, hopeful vision becomes reality, in a stone and seashell church facing the sea. It still caught me by surprise, and in my delight I didn't know if I was laughing or crying. You are a dream come true.
The very first thing you said to me was "Lemme know if you're serious."
I was, I am.
Up a hill, down the aisle. All our worlds present, in people who know us truly and love the dark and bright bits of us.
This day is so delicate and so fleeting.
Yes, I am here. And you are lucky to be here too after all the absurd things you've done since you left home.
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
Images from various cameras during the week of the wedding.
Official Photographer: Joseph Pascual
Video: Dan Mendiola
Instant Camera Prints: Rosem Morton / MorePerspectives